October is now officially "Natural Locks'tober!"

Put down the straightening cream, step away from that flat iron, and come join me as I declare October to be …

Natural Locks’tober!

It is estimated that more than 65% of women have naturally curly or wavy hair. According to observation, the numbers appear much less.

The multi-billion-dollar hair-straightening market (in the U.S. alone) helps hide this, but it doesn’t mean it’s not there.

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Dahlia as a little girl.

Sure, curls are becoming trendy again, as celebrities start to boing it back. But we can’t take cues to be ourselves based on whimsical trends. Trends should take their cues from self-expression, not self-mutilation or poor self-esteem.

It’s bad enough that society dictates that women should eliminate hair from practically every area of ours bodies. Can’t we at least embrace the hair we are allowed to have?

Growing up with a quirky mane, I longed to look like “normal” girls: the ones who could brush their hair when dry, or put their fingers through it without them getting trapped in the strands.

Back then nobody ever complimented my hair – ever, because I never did anything to complement my hair.

I’d try to brush out the corkscrews, hairdressers would wield thinning shears to my head as if they were weed-whackers, and I’d even crank my neck over the towel-covered kitchen table while my mom set the iron to “rayon” (or “ruin”).

Of course, as I grew up I learned less destructive ways to avoid my curly fate, still I was never fulfilled, because I was never ‘frofilled.

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Once I started to accept my kinks, life became much smoother – and interestingly enough my hair became curlier. Still, it actually took years – YEARS – before I figured out how to properly navigate my mane.

Naturally (or unnaturally as it were), I will straighten my hair from time to time. Interestingly enough, the only people who ever comment on my “straight” look are those who know me and are caught off-guard. To strangers, I'm just another girl with straight hair - probably attained equally as "genetically" as my ultra-blonde hair.

But when my hair is in its beastiful state, strangers will often approach me to say how they wish they had my hair. Then, inevitably, some will tell me how their hair is “sort of curly,” but won’t look good unless they go through the burdensome hassle of blowing it out.

Well, your hair is curlier than you think. Yes, even yours. The problem is that most of us style our ‘dos in very don’t ways.

To learn about my secrets using Curly Hair Solutions, check out my article “Introducing your best curlfriend." 

Just keep in mind that you need to spend more time trying to learn what works for your locks than trying to keep it in lockdown. (What's more, you'll end up spending less money and time on your coiff.)

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So for the next month, I say let’s all declare October to be Natural Locks’tober. Let’s forget about blow-frying our hair straight and flat-ironing our personalities.

It’s time for a new romance – with yourself. It’s time for a fromance.




Are you bold enough to get involved in a fromantic relationship? Prove it. Send your pictures or stories to [email protected].

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